Ever notice that we sometimes speak to ourselves in awful, negative ways that we’d never use with our fellow human beings?
Sometimes we’re our own worst enemies. We allow our very own minds tell us that we’re not good enough, not strong enough, not smart enough. We’ve all been there, and it hurts – but the good news is…we don’t have to stay there. We have the ability to reject our negativity, and claim the personal power that has been there all along, whether we knew it or not. We have it within us to be as nice to ourselves as we would to any stranger on the street.
If you’re plagued by negative self-speak, you need to remember to practice the following, EVERY DAY:
Praise Yourself Unconditionally.
Do you stand in front of your reflection in the mirror and say things to yourself that you wouldn’t dare utter aloud? Do you have thoughts that are so mean and rude to YOU, that you’d be uncomfortable telling someone else about them? Are you hypercritical about yourself? Your appearance? Your body? Your achievements? Feel like a failed perfectionist because you set impossible goals and kick yourself when you don’t meet them?
If so, you’re not alone, and these are the very thoughts that you need to STOP and TURN OFF. How do you do that?
Remember the three R words:
RECOGNIZE the negative self-speak.
If what you’re thinking makes you feel bad, chances are that you’re engaging in negative self-speak. Don’t talk to YOU like that. Stop beating yourself up. Don’t wallow in guilt and shame and feelings of inadequacy. Don’t allow yourself to be bullied, by YOU.
REJECT the lies that negative self-speak tells you.
When negative self-speak comes to mind, it’s not representative of reality. It’s not true. Your mind will lie to you, and it’s up to you to reject the lies, and speak your awesome, wonderful truth. Be kind and loving to the person you are on the inside. A bad day is just a bad day, we all have them, but we can all decide to turn bad days into good days by seeing the positive side of ourselves.
REPLACE the negative thoughts with positive thoughts.
Start praising yourself unconditionally. That literally means no conditions. No matter what you have or haven’t achieved, you must praise yourself for exactly who and what you are. Give yourself a pat on the back. Good job, well done, you rock, you are gorgeous, you are loved, you are handsome, you are worthy. Praise, praise, and more praise. You deserve nothing less. Leave reminders around the house – even just a post it note on the bathroom mirror that tells you you’re awesome and to go get some sunshine on your face and in your soul can make all the difference in the world.
You’ve got this. You can beat the negativity. Recognize. Reject. Replace. Every day. You owe it to you.