Ever hear of the concept of “Dating Yourself”?
Think about it for a second. How do you treat someone whom you’re dating? You probably do many, if not all, of the following things:
You’d pay attention to how they’re feeling. You might suggest getting some food if they’re hungry, or telling them to get some rest if they’re tired.
You’d be sensitive to what makes them happy, and you’d try to provide those things. You might bring them flowers, or buy a special brand of ice cream, or treat them to a concert, or cook a meal.
You’d be excited about trying new things, and exploring new ideas.
Here’s the kicker – each of those things we just listed above, are things that you should do for yourself, as well as for someone you’re dating. They’re things that you deserve and that you can give as a gift to yourself.
So many times, we’re willing to do things for others, and we won’t show ourselves the same consideration – we’re being unfair to ourselves. If you were dating someone who didn’t pay attention to your wants and needs, chances are that the relationship wouldn’t last very long. Why should others be nicer to you than you are to yourself?
Sometimes we get so wrapped up in being someone to another person – wife, mom, daughter, best friend, etc… – that we forget who we actually are, when we’re being our authentic selves. You are precious. Don’t let your identity slip away in the face of all of the demands of daily life.
When you’re tired, don’t feel guilty about putting your feet up, or taking a nice warm bath. If you’re hungry, there’s nothing wrong with indulging in a gourmet treat, or whipping up something new that you’ve been dying to try. If you’re feeling a bit down, buy yourself a good book, or a grocery store bouquet, or go to see that new movie that looks so interesting. If your best friend would do it for you to cheer you up, don’t be shy about doing it for yourself!
“Dating Yourself” is a form of self-care, but it goes beyond that. Dating Yourself demands that you recognize your worth, and recognize the fact that you deserve to be treated well. We have to know how to treat ourselves generously as well as being kind to others. When we’re dating someone, we’re positive, and we anticipate their needs. We don’t guilt-trip, scold or belittle the other person, and we definitely shouldn’t do that to ourselves. Be nice to you.
Eat the cake. Read the book. Buy the treat. Try new things. Create the life that you want to live, on your own, because you deserve it. Find your passion and explore your world, in your own perfect way. You’ll learn to really love your own company when you realize that your success, happiness and achievement doesn’t depend on anyone but you, and that you’re equipped and ready to provide all of those things for yourself.
You have one life to live. Live it well by Dating Yourself!